We have Epics like Mahabharata and Ramayana to guide us in our lives. We are taught by Kunti's actions that you cannot take back words and the implications of letting out anything loosely will have everlasting impacts. And yet, every day we tend to let out words to hurt others. You can apologize later that you did not mean it, but those words can never be taken back. You can always control what you say and how you say it. Sometimes bad thoughts enter our head. We can always filter out what comes out of our mouth, right? Especially when you are angry, my best approach is to stay silent than to speak harsh words. I am smart. Don't doubt the fact that I could give you some exceptionally witty comebacks, but I choose not to. I choose my words because I have learned from experience that it hurts forever.
Our elders say "Naakula Shani irukku". Shani God is always wrongly connected to be controlling our actions. It is easy to put the blame on someone for our actions. Not taking responsibility is not the right approach. If you want peace, you have to work towards it. You cannot be hurling abuses and say I want a peaceful life. We are all not perfect. We make mistakes, but we must realize that others are also human beings and tend to make mistakes too. Accept when they apologize or say they have done it by mistake. You cannot expect them to do something without being told and yet reprimand them for doing things without asking. Sigh.
I see a lot of youngsters saying, "This is my house. I will do what I want. Do not tell me what to do." to an older relative. They would conveniently get expensive gifts from them and then when they are being advised, they would retort with "Who are you to offer free advice?". Again, very easy to let out words. You can go back and tell them you did not mean it, and it came out like that because you were angry. The person on the receiving end is no fool.
The other attitude that irks me is sarcasm. When I meet such people, who are condescendingly sarcastic, I zone out of the conversation. It is hard to keep speculating whether they are being sincere or sarcastic. Smart, witty sarcasm is one thing and sometimes I do get it. I only do not agree when the speaker thinks of others as lowly or uneducated.
"Be kind to one another", Ellen says at the end of each show. Is being kind so tough?
Think about it next time you are angry and wish to say mean things.
Our elders say "Naakula Shani irukku". Shani God is always wrongly connected to be controlling our actions. It is easy to put the blame on someone for our actions. Not taking responsibility is not the right approach. If you want peace, you have to work towards it. You cannot be hurling abuses and say I want a peaceful life. We are all not perfect. We make mistakes, but we must realize that others are also human beings and tend to make mistakes too. Accept when they apologize or say they have done it by mistake. You cannot expect them to do something without being told and yet reprimand them for doing things without asking. Sigh.
I see a lot of youngsters saying, "This is my house. I will do what I want. Do not tell me what to do." to an older relative. They would conveniently get expensive gifts from them and then when they are being advised, they would retort with "Who are you to offer free advice?". Again, very easy to let out words. You can go back and tell them you did not mean it, and it came out like that because you were angry. The person on the receiving end is no fool.
The other attitude that irks me is sarcasm. When I meet such people, who are condescendingly sarcastic, I zone out of the conversation. It is hard to keep speculating whether they are being sincere or sarcastic. Smart, witty sarcasm is one thing and sometimes I do get it. I only do not agree when the speaker thinks of others as lowly or uneducated.
"Be kind to one another", Ellen says at the end of each show. Is being kind so tough?
Think about it next time you are angry and wish to say mean things.
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