We all need help

So, if you had asked me a couple of years back if I needed help, I would have most certainly responded - "No, thank you." I used to think asking for help was a sign of weakness. It meant accepting that I could not do something on my own, or figure things out on my own without having to ask another human being to help me. I felt it was aligning to the damsel in distress trope that i wanted to get as far away from as possible. Another factor contributing to it was HOW i liked to do things. If the person i requested assistance from did not complete it in a certain way, I would get frustrated and feel I could have done it myself or would spend time re working the work. I know I am not alone in feeling like this. I only regret not fixing this behaviour sooner. I could have done so much more and so much faster had I just reached out for help. All I needed to do was to let go of the need to control the outcomes. I could always share feedback and refine the outcomes or just accept it that way if needed. So much more pressure off my shoulders that carried on unnecessarily. But can you ask help from just about anyone ? You need the other person to be non-judgemental. What if they think you are stupid or incapable? Does it matter ? People will continue to judge you whether you like it or not. They will judge you from afar just as they would judge you at close quarters. Kuch toh log kahenge , logon ka kaam hai kehna... Reminding myself of this, I am more free now in asking for help. I am thankful for people doing it their way. I am okay with asking for anything and not feeling silly or juvenile about it. Now, I also realize I am a hypocrite. I am always ready to help everyone. I am happy to help. I will even go out of my way to help people if needed. I feel happy when I help, even the slightest. Recently I heard someone say that when someone comes to you for help, especially a friend, that bond is stronger. The helper feels happy to be of service and to rob someone of the pleasure by not asking for help is absolutely cruel. Now that is a nice perspective and I understand it from the angle of the helper. I do intend to be more of the helpee too every once in a while. It will do me good, bring happiness to close ones around me and I will be getting more opportunities to help others too. Now off to ask for help from my team. Until next time, Happy Reading !