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The 4-0

The year I turned 40, I was supposed to make a trip to Dubai with my best friends as we all completed the 4 decade mark in the same year. Two of us lost a parent-in-law and have a lot going on and so put this up on pause. I say Pause and not cancel because I am still hopeful that some day we will manage to take it, hopefully before the next decade milestone. I did plan for very elaborate celebrations on that day itself. Well, that again had a slight hiccup with health of a family member and we resorted to a lunch at Phurr. A nice, elevated dining experience and mainly vegetarian only place. The ambience was perfect and every plate of food that was served there was stunning and tasted good too. Sometimes a simple lunch is also a luxury and a grand celebration. Given the circumstances, that was the best that we could do and it was enough. Gifts and wishes from family and friends made the day complete with happiness. Everyone says something changes when you turn 40. They say there is a switch and you suddently do not care about what others think anymore. I think it is true. Maybe not overnight, but definitely, age does help you understand it is not worth your time anymore to worry about little things. And the 4-0 also changes our body. I am being more conscious about what and how much I eat. I try to consume more fruits on a daily basis. Walk every day too. Move around a lot more. I enjoy the morning walks. People ask why should I be so excited about b'days and milestones, I ask "Why Not?". It is good to keep that child in you alive and active. When do we stop enjoying the little things and jumping around, hopping and skipping when we are happy? I still do. I enjoy the little things. B'days are part of that. So cheers to the first 4 decades and for the next 4 as well! Until next, Happy Reading!

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